In the waiting room at the physio, I spotted the latest copy of the Women’s Weekly with Nigella Lawson on the front cover. Naturally I picked it up, as I am intrigued by Nigella’s work and life. She looks calm on the cover, serene almost.
Nigella seems to personify the “goddess mother”. The blending of the parent with the dignified strength of the individual. Someone who has encountered tragedy and difficult times, but positively persists regardless.
So many mothers are consumed with looking after others, often sacrificing their own needs in the process. Goddesses are both outward and inward focused, they achieve a sense of calm through this balance. To achieve the goddess calm, take time to nurture yourself.
Meditation can be really beneficial. You can choose an “active” type meditation such as walking, ideally first thing in the morning, not just for the exercise, but for the steadying influence on your psyche. Make the time count, walk silently, and take time to draw deep breaths, notice the sky, the trees or perhaps a beautiful piece of architecture. Anything that reminds you of beauty and peace.
Or join a meditation class, not just a short session at the end of another exercise class, but a special purpose meditation class, with a knowledgeable instructor. I have been attending just such a class for a few months now and can attest to the tangible sense of calm that is possible.
Not only is it important to achieve this calm for ourselves, but also for those around us. Our attitude spills over into our environment, colouring the attitude of our colleagues, family and friends. It impacts the food that we cook and serve to others. It is difficult to eat when we are upset and even more difficult to digest!
Of course, it is unrealistic to think that we can achieve goddess mother serenity all the time – it is something that we strive for.